How we get to the place when we say,
“ I want to get some counseling,” is different for everyone.
Often we get there because something in our lives is not working. It can be that we struggle with our emotions everyday, that there is an old something that continues to bother us, or that our relationships are not what we hope they could be. Sometimes a loved one tells us they are worried, or some type of loss or crisis is just overwhelming. Whatever the reason that makes a person search out the assistance of therapy, counseling can often help with confusion and pain.
While there is no guarantee that therapy helps us feel better, it can be an important tool when working on change. Counseling can provide a private place, away from the hurriedness of daily life, to open the door of curiosity and help imagine a life different than what it is right now. We can make changes in therapy, then take these things we learn about ourselves and try them on, take them back out into the world, see if they do indeed ease our pain, strengthen our relationships, and make us feel more connected to ourselves and our lives.
I model compassionate curiosity about emotions and changes sought. This path starts with taking a step back and looking at yourself with a birds-eye view. Curiosity is viewing without judgement and compassion is seeing what is there with appreciation, empathy and understanding. Once you actually see what is there within yourself, you can decide how you want to have a relationship with it--what parts to re-member, and what parts to respectfully let go. By undergoing this process, you strengthen your foundation and ready yourself to receive respect and meaningful, supportive relationships.
The work done in counseling sessions varies on the needs of each person.
Therapy often consists of 50 minute sessions that are usually weekly. Regular attendance is important for therapy because it allows the structure of inquiring deeply within to become a habit.
Here are some possibilities of time utilized in session:
- Be seen and heard in a safe, non-judgmental way
- Explore and identify emotions, their origins, and their role in daily life
- Grieve what you have lost, decisions that have proved difficult, and opportunities that are gone
- Explore how you feel about the relationships in your life and how you imagine them differently
- Connect with and understand your thoughts and actions that accompany your emotions
- Build practices that support health and well-being
- Consider letting go of habits, thoughts and relationships that bring harm or hinder growth